Bullying

2017-08-23

什么是欺凌What is bullying?

重复伤害行为。Repeated hurtful acts.

§ 权力的不平衡--欺负者和目标之间Power imbalance ---- bully and the target

§ 欺凌的力量可以来源于体型、力量、语言能力、受欢迎程度或性别。power fromphysical size, strength, verbal skills, popularity, or gender.

§ 被欺凌者会感到折磨、无助和毫无防备Targettormented, helpless and defenseless

§ 欺凌可以是武力、言语攻击、手势、疏离。Bullying canuser physical force, verbal attacks, gestures, exclusion

§ 欺凌不是两人之间的分歧或冲突。NOT disagreement or conflict

你需要知道You need to know:

§ 欺凌“不只是成长的一部分。NOT “just a part of growing up.”

§ 欺凌通常经常发生。usuallyover time

§ 面对欺凌,孩子们常常觉得无助,不知道如何制止。Children often feel helpless in the face of bullying and do not know how to get it stopped.

§ 身体上的欺凌和骚扰也可能是一次性事件-----面对欺凌要拒绝和制止。Physical bullying/harassment can be a one-time incident – if the bully is told to stop and and listens.

§ 在美国有1/7的孩子被欺负。In USA 1 in 7 students are bullied.

 

如果你的孩子被欺负了… Is your child being bullied

 

§ 不是你孩子的错。Not your child’s fault.

§ 你孩子不是自己一个人。Your child is not alone.

§ 讨论面对欺凌现在怎么回击。Discuss responses.

§ 教育孩子要坚定自信。Learn to be assertive.

§ 让你的孩子知道什么时候以及怎样寻求帮助。When and how to get help.

§ 报告欺凌现象。Report bullying.

§ 联系学校/老师。Contact the school/teacher.

如果你怀疑你的孩子被欺负了… If You Suspect Your Child Is Being Bullied…

 

要做DO:

§ 被欺负不是他/她的错。Being bullied is not his or her fault.

§ /她不需要独自面对。S/he does not have to face bullying alone.

§ 讨论回应的办法。Discuss ways of responding to bullies.

§ 教你的孩子勇敢自信。Teacher your child to be assertive.

§ 让你的孩子知道什么时候以及怎样寻求帮助。Help your child to know when and how to get help.

§ 告诉你的孩子跟信得过的成年人报告这种现象。Tell your child to report bullying IMMEDIATELY to a trusted adult.

§ 联系学校。Contact the school.

如果你怀疑你的孩子被欺负了… If You Suspect Your Child Is Being Bullied…

 

不要DON’T

§ 让孩子自己解决问题。Ask children to solve their own bullying problems

§ 让被欺负的孩子打回去。Advise the bullied child to fight the bully.

§ 试图调节欺凌的处境。Try to mediate a bullying situation.

§ 责备欺凌者和被欺凌者。Blame either the victim or the bully.

§ 忽视这种现象并认为会自己消失。Ignore the situationhope it will go away!


预防你的孩子,不要成为被欺负的对象Prevent Your Child from Becoming a TARGET:

 

§ 对你的孩子逐渐灌输自信。Instill self-confidence.

§ 帮助孩子建立良好社交能力。Establish good social skills.

§ 教你的孩子能勇敢的说出来。Learn to speak out.

§ 寻求帮助。Seek help.


如果一个孩子被欺负了,我怎样发现How do I find out if a child is BULLYING?

 

 

警告标志Warning Signs


如果你的孩子If your child…

 

§ 有侵略或者恶意行为“算账”或者报仇。Aggressive or spiteful behaviors; revenge.

§ 他有掌控以及操控别人的迹象。Domination & manipulation.

§ 辱骂、摆布过度教导别的孩子的现象。Insulting, push-ing around, or over-teaching

§ 不能控制自己愤怒或者冲动情绪。Anger and/or impulse control….

 

/可能就会有欺凌行为并且需要帮助S/he may be exhibiting bullying behaviors and needs help!


如果你认为你的孩子是个欺凌者,请记住If you think your child is a bully, remember:

 

§ 欺凌是不被接受的行为。NOT acceptable.

§ 对于欺凌要有惩罚和后果。There are penalties and consequences.

§ 有很多可供选择的方法来处理愤怒和挫折。Anger/frustration management alternatives.

§ 让孩子理解欺凌的不良影响。Understanding impact.

§ 移情。Develop empathy.

§ 道歉、弥补Make amends/make restitution.

§ 寻找支持和咨询Seek support/counseling.

§ 保持冷静--- 如果学校联系您,如果学校联系您不要愤怒和防御性。Staying calm -- TRY NOT TO BECOME ANGRY AND DEFENSIVE if contacted by the school.


谁是欺凌者Who Bullies?

§ 暴力解决问题。Believe violence works.

§ 有侵略性Are aggressive.

§ 有支配性、独断、自我。Need to dominate, be assertive., get own way.

§ 经常暴躁和冲动;不能正确处理挫折和障碍Often hot-tempered and impulsive; can’t obstacles.

§ 不能融入他人的孩子。Difficult fitting in.

§ 不能遵守规则的孩子。Difficulty following rules.

§ 没有同情心的孩子,他们有一自私并且不关心别人。Lack empathy, self-absorbed

§ 健谈者。Agile talkers.


阻止欺负的过程Bullying Prevention Procedures

 

孩子For the child

§ 告诉他请停止这种行为。Tell the other student to please stop.

§ 强烈的告诉他“停止“。Forcefully tell the other student to “STOP NOW”

§ 向成人报告这种欺凌现象。Report the bullying to an adult.

 

孩子与老师/校长之间With the children and the teacher/principal

§ 敞开分享发生了什么。Share openly what has been going on.

§ 两边讨论交流感受。Discuss how each side feels about the interaction.


阻止你的孩子成为欺凌者Prevent Your Child from Becoming A BULLY:

 

§ 对孩子使用非暴力行为;讨论问题。Model non-violent behavior, discuss problems.

§ 澄清欺凌行为是不被接受的。Violence is not acceptable.

§ 发展非暴力方式解决冲突Develop non-violent problem solving strategies.

§ 向专业人员寻求帮助Seek help from professionals.

§ 跟孩子讨论欺凌行为讨论问题/感受,使用问题解决表格,愤怒管理策略。Discuss alternatives to bullying with your child: talking about problems/feelings, use of the problem -solving chart, anger management strategies.


 

 

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